Long Distance Part 1: It can work. | The Social Rules

Posted in: Relationships | No Comments | Posted on March 13, 2012 by admin

Long-distance relationships are tough. That?s no secret. The reason we get into relationships in the first place, at its root, is for companionship. The physical and psychological rewards of having a caring partner near you go far beyond the sexual aspects. That?s why people hold hands, kiss, cuddle, hug, and all of that. We seem to have a primal desire to be near other people, specifically people we love, trust, and share a mutual attraction with.

But this desire doesn?t get fulfilled through looking at a picture or talking on the phone.? You can?t hug a voice. This is where the problems of a long-distance relationship come in. You can still share with each other but it lacks the immediate intimacy that sitting in the same room possesses. And that sucks.

That being said, long-distance relationships can work. It can be done. I have been in this situation for about a year and a half and we?ve managed to continue growing our interest and respect for each other while avoiding the boredom that seems almost inevitable. How do we manage to do that? Well, I guess that?s what this series will be devoted to.

You may be asking, ?Who is this joker and why the hell should I listen to what he says??? I should probably list a handful of credentials and reasons you should trust what I say, but I?m not going to do that. I?m simply here to offer a viewpoint on what has worked for me that you might be able to use in your own life.

No two people are the same. There isn?t a concrete ?right? or ?wrong? way to go about doing things. You know that saying about many ways to skin a cat?? This is kind of like that. But you?re not going to find your best way to disembowel a cat without watching someone else get out the hunting knife. So I?ll be here every so often to get out the hunting knife and start hacking away, giving you a starting point, or at least another perspective, while you try to skin a cat of your own. Or, I mean, make your own long-distance relationship survive. They don?t always seem mutually exclusive.

Source: http://thesocialrules.com/2012/03/long-distance-part-1/

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